Whether you are new to the dating scene, are reentering the dating
scene, or are a serial dater, you can use dating tips and advice. No
one is a dating expert – even the most beautiful and wealthy people
all struggle with matters of the heart. Everyone can learn something
about how to date more, how to attract the types of people we want
to attract, and how to make sure initial chemistry blooms into an
enduring relationship.
The truth is, there are no magic formulas, no fail-proof tricks,
no cunning ways of trapping Mr. or Miss Right. There are however
some essential facts that you should always bear in mind along the
way. Dating tips are just that -- tips, not one-size-fits-all
guarantees. Different tacks will work for different people. It
depends on the situation, who we are, where we are in our lives,
etc. However, there are some threads of advice that are fairly
universal and can benefit anyone who practices them:
Top 10 Dating Tips
- Get prepared for dating. If you really
want to succeed in the dating game, be ready to commit to
dating. Half-heartedness won't work. In fact, it won’t even get
you half-way. If you really want to date, put some effort into
it. Do some research and think about what you want out of
dating. Prepare yourself for the inevitable rejection we all
face at some point in dating and commit not to give up.
- Get your act together. Begin a regime of
looking your best. Join a gym, read health magazines, get fit
and start a diet. Get your hair cut or styled and begin a new
regime of good grooming or beauty treatment. Though it will not
find you a date in itself, you will feel a million times more
confident about yourself, and others can sense that.
- Go shopping and treat yourself to new
clothes and even a whole new look. Get your image right, one
that you can manage and live with, but one that flatters you.
Don't try to be someone you’re not, but amplify and accentuate
your positives. Throw out those tired jeans, old sweaters or
cardigans and spruce yourself up. Your date will appreciate that
you demonstrated some effort.
- Think about what you want to gain from
dating and what timeframes you expect. Do you see yourself
married within 2 years? If you do, then approach dating
accordingly. If you are more laid back and don't take dating too
seriously then ask yourself some honest questions about why you
are dating and what you hope to achieve. If it is purely sex
then ask yourself if you are about to be honest with those you
hope to date.
- Surround yourself with people who will
support your dating aims. By following the first four tips you
will feel better and be more focused. Don’t sabotage this by
sitting around with friends who are negative about love and
relationships (often the married ones). Start attending social
functions frequented by singles. Sitting alongside couples at
dinner parties in suburbia is not necessarily where you need to
be right now.
- Choose those you have a good chance of
dating. Be realistic. In other words, your dating is based on
the whole package you present as well as just your personality.
If you are looking for a glamour girl or boy and want to date
someone trendy and gorgeous, great! Just know that others will
expect you to be the same.
- Join clubs, societies, sports events,
drama groups -- anything that might help you meet like-minded
potential partners. You will not meet people by staying indoors
and playing video games – many have tried and failed at this
approach.
- Take time off from dating occasionally if
it’s not going well or causing dating fatigue. Recharging your
batteries and keeping confidence and optimism levels high is an
absolute must. We all hit rough patches, but don’t let your
search for love become a death march. Date in phases if
necessary.
- Enjoy dating for what it is, dating. It is
meeting people and socializing and spending time in the company
of stimulating individuals who may or may not play a bigger part
in your life down the road. The fact is, most people have
something interesting to offer. While you may not be out on the
dating scene looking for new friends, you may well find one or
two fabulous people along the way.
- Never make yourself too available. People
like mystery and enigma and the thrill of the chase when dating.
As part of keeping up the mystery, do not sleep with your dates
early on. The longer a person is made to chase and fall for you
within reason, the more likely that love may blossom. (And yes,
this goes for both men AND women!) If the chemistry peaks too
early, your emotions may never have time to catch up and the
relationship will eventually wither away.